Sex & Intimacy Coaching

It can be hard to ask for help with any area where you feel vulnerable: learning a new skill, managing depression or anxiety, in relationships. But with these, you probably have at least an idea of what to expect when they arrive in a class or session. What does it mean to work with a Somatic Sexuality Educator?

Sex & Intimacy Coaching

It can be hard to ask for help with any area where you feel vulnerable: learning a new sport, changing the way you eat, managing depression or anxiety. But with these, you probably have at least an idea of what to expect when they arrive in a class or session.

Is it okay to need help with sex?


Most of us have been conditioned to believe we should already know how to be great lovers and feel totally comfortable with our sexuality… even though we never received any real sex education that included the idea of sex feeling good TO US — actually owning our own pleasure vs. performing for our partner.

What if it’s okay to want sex that doesn’t look like the very narrow definition of “normal sex” most of us learned about through friends or movies or porn? (That strict script that says it only counts as “real sex” if it’s about intercourse, penetration, and orgasm?)  

What if what you’re secretly craving – doesn’t look like that? What if you want a lot more?

As a Somatic Sex Coach, I help you find out what kind of sex you actually want, which may look very different from that narrow model. I help you tune into your body’s real desires and release shame and blocks that live there. Work with me, and I will support you in building permission and confidence to live your life from pleasure and create the kinds of safe, trusting, playful, pleasurable relationships and erotic experiences you’ve always wanted

What is the difference between a sex therapist and a sex coach?

Sex therapists have training in therapy or counseling, and generally focus on looking at the past in order to understand and accept yourself in the present. Many therapeutic models focus on pathology: on what’s wrong, and how to fix it. You generally do the work with a therapist within the session time, and often work in an ongoing way over time.

As a Somatic Sex Coach and Sexological Bodyworker, I have years of experience and training with world experts in the field of sexuality, embodied pleasure, and sexual wellness. Together, we focus on what you want to create going forward, and how to get there. Whe you work with me, the focus on pleasure and health: what is good, what is whole, what is good and natural in your desires, your body, and your relationships? How can you optimize what nourishes you, so that you live your life from a place of resource, pleasure, and joy?

As a sex and intimacy coach, I’ve spent hundreds of hours in training and even more working with clients and their bodies, helping people feel safer, closer, and more connected to themselves and their partners (if they are in relationship). Much of my work centers on the Erotic Blueprints, which are a rich framework for expanding your understanding and definition of what “sex” is, that you are not broken or wrong in any way, and that in fact your desires are fundamentally good! Whether they are in the Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, or Shapeshifter realm of sexuality.

I work somatically. That means I guide you in learning a sense of safety you may never have learned in your early life by finding deeper connection and trust in your own body, vs. just talking about past emotions or stories. Working in this way helps you to increase emotional awareness and your capacity to feel, receive, and give pleasure physically and emotionally, and create relationships based on trust, consent, integrity, and true acceptance.

As a coach (vs. a therapist), I work over time with my clients with a set container of time (a series of sessions, in-person immersions, or ideally, both).  I want to make sure you get full support for the changes you want to make, so in my VIP Mentorships, we generally work together for four months, six months, or a full year). 

Before we begin our work together, I guide you in setting clear, achievable goals, getting specific and clear about how you will know when you have achieved them, and then giving you structure and accountability in reverse-engineering our sessions and your practices between sessions, so that you achieve those goals that you’ve committed to.

Notice the emphasis on what you do between sessions. My clients often experience big breakthroughs and ahas in direct work with me in online or bodywork sessions, and that’s great! But what I want for you is lasting results, and that comes from repetition and cultivation: actual embodied homework and practice sessions so that you rewire your body and your nervous system into new habits of pleasure, noticing sensations in your body and vulnerably speaking your truth, deeply and intimately connecting with yourself and others from a place of self-acceptance and self-discovery, and creating whole new pathways and superhighways of turn-on, delicious delight, and orgasmic expression.

But how do we do that? What happens in a session? What do you mean by “practices”?

As a Somatic Sexologist, Erotic Blueprints Master Trainer, and Certified Sexological Bodyworker, I am a teacher and guide for your erotic expansion. I work with clients all over the U.S., Canada, and abroad. Many of my clients travel to Boulder to work with me in bodywork immersions. Others choose to work with me remotely, in online video sessions where I provide you with a practice space to safely talk about sex, ask questions you’ve never asked before, and get coaching help where you feel stuck or frozen because of shame or sex-negative conditioning from family, religion, or social conditioning. I find the clients who get the best results work with me both virtually and in person, in my VIP Mentorships, so I can both show, guide, and support you over time for lasting transformation.

“Somatic” means “body-based.” Because I’m a Somatic Sex Educator, I will help you notice what is happening in your body and ask you questions to help you bring into your awareness what may be unconscious, so you can release it and relax instead into more pleasure, joy, and ease.


Then, we work together to come up with homework you can do yourself or with your partner that support self-discovery, empathy, and expanding your communication and touch skills. You may be practicing finding arousal in a new way, talking about sex out loud in ways you’ve never dared before, or breathing and grounding as ways of letting go of performance anxiety, fear, or resentment when they come up. All of this means you are cultivating and actively creating the kind of satisfying, playful, truly present sexual experiences you actually want, with the one(s) you love most (including yourself, if you are single!).


Different sex coaches have different areas of expertise. In my case, I specialize in working with long term couples. WIth all of my clients, I introduce safe and fun ways to explore new erotic landscapes, which can include  Devotional Kink Coaching, supporting people in alternative relationship styles (ethical non-monogamy and polyamory), and Love After 50 – finding love and new heights of sexual exploration and ecstatic experiences at any age.

If you already know you are interested in working with me in my private coaching, apply now! If you’d like to learn more about my workshops and events, visit my event page at: Isn’t it time you got the expert help you need, to finally have the sex life you’ve been dreaming of? I’m here to help you get there.

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